The paradox of love /

The sexual revolution is justly celebrated for the freedoms it brought--birth control, the decriminalization of abortion, the liberalization of divorce, greater equality between the sexes, women's massive entry into the workforce, and more tolerance of homosexuality. But as Pascal Bruckner, one...

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Main Authors: Bruckner, Pascal
Corporate Authors: De Gruyter.
Published: Princeton University Press,
Publisher Address: Princeton, N.J. :
Publication Dates: [2012]
©2012
Literature type: eBook
Language: English
Edition: Course Book.
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Online Access: http://dx.doi.org/10.1515/9781400841851
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Summary: The sexual revolution is justly celebrated for the freedoms it brought--birth control, the decriminalization of abortion, the liberalization of divorce, greater equality between the sexes, women's massive entry into the workforce, and more tolerance of homosexuality. But as Pascal Bruckner, one of France's leading writers, argues in this lively and provocative reflection on the contradictions of modern love, our new freedoms have also brought new burdens and rules--without, however, wiping out the old rules, emotions, desires, and arrangements: the couple, marriage, jealousy, the demand for fidelity, the war between constancy and inconstancy. It is no wonder that love, sex, and relationships today are so confusing, so difficult, and so paradoxical. Drawing on history, politics, psychology, literature, pop culture, and current events, this book--a best seller in France--exposes and dissects these paradoxes. With his customary brilliance and wit, Bruckner traces the roots of sexual liberation back to the Enlightenment in order to explain love's supreme paradox, epitomized by the 1960s oxymoron of "free love": the tension between freedom, which separates, and love, which attaches. Ashamed that our sex lives fail to live up to such liberated ideals, we have traded neuroses of repression for neuroses of inadequacy, and we overcompensate: "Our parents lied about their morality," Bruckner writes, but "we lie about our immorality." Mixing irony and optimism, Bruckner argues that, when it comes to love, we should side neither with the revolutionaries nor the reactionaries. Rather, taking love and ourselves as we are, we should realize that love makes no progress and that its messiness, surprises, and paradoxes are not merely the sources of its pain--but also of its pleasure and glory.
Carrier Form: 1 online resource (272 pages) : illustrations
ISBN: 9781400841851
Index Number: HQ801
CLC: C913.14
Contents: Frontmatter --
Contents --
Introduction --
1. Liberating the Human Heart --
2. Seduction as a Market --
3. I Love You: Weakness and Capture --
4. The Noble Challenge of Marriage for Love --
5. Fluctuating Loyalties --
6. The Pleasures and Servitudes of Living Together --
7. Is There a Sexual Revolution? --
8. Toward a Bankruptcy of Eros? --
9. Persecution in the Name of Love: Christianity and Communism --
10. Marcel Proust s Slippers --
Epilogue. Don t Be Ashamed! --
Afterword. Pascal Bruckner s Paradoxes --
Notes --
Index.